Recently I had a friend come to me telling me she was dealing with lots of negativity in her life so she asked me for some advice.
Here’s what I told her when it comes to dealing with adversity in life. I am sure you will be able to start applying them in your life too.
I even broke it down into three simple tips later on so you will know how to react when life throws you a curveball.
We all face adversity from time to time but how you react is often the difference between taking it in your stride.
And at other times, feeling overwhelmed and as though nothing can ever go right again.
This is similar to the self-help book I am reading now as it also talks about how the only thing that truly matters is how we perceive the event in our lives.
Yes, even the most negative events can be perceived as a positive event after you allow your soul to heal.
How often have you tried something that did not turn out the way you expected and it made you decide you would rather never challenge yourself in that way again.
Rather than facing the feelings of failure, embarrassment or humiliation?
The problem with this is that we human beings derive happiness from personal growth yet we are so afraid of failure because our environment tells us that failure is a bad thing.
Do you recall a time in your life where you tried some new exercise, diet, or meditation?
And then it made you so much happier because you started to feel yourself growing like a seedling into a big pine tree?
That is the same feeling I am talking about.
So how do you protect yourself from the feelings of 'not enough' and regain your courage to face life with all of the challenges it will throw at you?
Here are the three tips to help you with all of that.
- Focus on how you have overcome difficult experiences in the past.
What did you do to feel better? What things did you do that helped? What are the things you did that did not help?
Build awareness around what you can consciously do to create a better environment that will support your journey to overcome the situation.
Tap on your past experience and higher self to help you with adversity in the now. After all, we all have our own treasure trove of knowledge and intuition to tap onto.
- Use the situation as a learning tool
What can you learn from this situation? If you could change it, how would you act differently? What were the positives?
Is there something you can do differently if you are in the same situation again?
Every part of life we experience, good or bad, is part of who we become.
Even the most difficult of situations allow us to build resilience and coping techniques which we can then utilize in other parts of life.
This was such an important principle I learned from a spiritual mentor of mine early on in life and started applying it daily.
It helped me to shift my mindset from seeing failure as a negative thing to something positive which sounds impossible but very possible at the same time.
By having this beautiful relationship with failure, you will start to be comfortable in uncomfortable situations that help you to develop and bloom into a more beautiful being.
- Be aware of your emotional state and don’t let it go out of control
Take a moment to feel the physical emotions you are experiencing as a result of the situation.
How would you explain these? What color would you describe them as? Can you notice the emotion or feeling and once identified, let it go?
Building awareness around your reactions to situations will help to judge if those feelings are helpful, and if not, how can you remove them? Will identifying them be enough?
Do you need to go for a walk or exercise or listen to music or read a book to distract those emotions from taking over your whole being?
You can also try going for a walk with your dog or wear a piece of crystal that helps to soothe your fear and anxiety, dissolving the negativity in you such as Amethyst or Rose Quartz.
In case you like to see some examples of them, I have also recommended some of them below for you.
Remember, you deserve to be happy like anyone else. Don’t ever let anyone take that away from you.
In life, there will be ups and downs but that is necessary because it is part of the process to help us grow into the most spiritual version of ourselves.
Wishing you love and light.